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“try to make it work”??
when people said ‘try to make it work, and if it didn’t, move on…’ I felt what it meant is ‘we have given the other party a chance if he/she didn’t take it, it’s not my fault’.
my hubby was trying to make things work, but in his way. He was trying to make me a nice dinner on my b’day and the only thing he asked was, ‘what would you like to eat’, instead of ‘how do you want to celebrate your b’day?’ but I never fancy having a meal at home on my b’day.
Married for 10 years and he gave you choices within his boundaries. He knew it wasn’t my style but in his eyes it’s the best way in celebrating an event. He made an effort to leave the office early to get fresh lobster and a bottle of wine. While I appreciated his effort in making the evening nice, I never really enjoy what he planned.
We are in a bit of a storm at the moment. So he tried to make it work, and if it didn’t, it’s my fault?
I think I hear what you are saying – he is willing to try, but not to really see things from your point of view. He is not willing to step outside of his own definitions.
This behavior comes off as selfish, but I think that it happens because the other person is not very empathic. Just in the one example here, it seems that you also did not speak up. He made this offer and you did not give him an alternative that you preferred.
I suggest that the next time tries to give you choices that he has pre-defined, speak up in a nice way about what you want. For awhile you may have to make your own plans, but that beats being silently bitter that he is unable to.
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